Creating the life you want
If you are planning for a long trip and vacation, you want to have a road map and look at places you want to visit and stay. A lot of people spend more time planning their annual vacation than they spend planning for their life. Life is a journey too. So you need a road map to get to your destination. Do you have your road map?
Most of us want to live a successful and fulfilled life but we don’t have a well thought-out plan to get there. To create the life you want, you need to ask yourself some important questions, and be willing to take the time to answer them to your satisfaction. What does success and fulfilment mean for you? What matters most to you: family, partner in life, relationships, work/career, health, spirituality, etc? What are your goals and priorities in your life? What are your core values and beliefs?
If you long to live a more authentic successful and fulfilled life, you need to reflect on your values and beliefs. If you live your life in alignment with your core values, beliefs, priorities and goals, the life you are meant to live tends to unfold before your eyes. Once you really understand what do you want out of life, then you can start planning for it. Determine what are the actions you need to take and the changes you need to make to accomplish your goals in life. Your detailed action plans and strategies are an important part of your road maps to success and fulfilment.
Have a positive mental attitude and confidence that you can indeed create the life you want. Along with some successes, there will inevitably be some set-backs. Believe in yourself and persevere. Don’t forget to be grateful for all the small successes along the way, and celebrate them with your loved ones.
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NURTURE YOUR PERSONAL GROWTH
The journey through life is a creative process during which we grow, change, learn, contribute and love. From birth to death, we are learning about ourselves, discovering our identity, and contributing to society. Through these life experiences and personal growth, we strive to become our personal best. The road to genuine personal growth is in the nurturing of our inner self and our personal growth. We develop a sense of personal value and worth, and the enjoyment of loving and being loved. We become strong, self-reliant and able to take charge of our life. We live our lives purposefully and with integrity in accordance with our belief and value systems. We cultivate and enhance our compassion, affection, forgiveness and empathy for ourselves and others. The most precious gifts we can give to ourselves and others are the gifts of caring and love. The journey towards personal growth helps us to be master of our own life whilst remaining flexible and open to new opportunities.
As you embark on your quest to personal self-actualization, you will become more positive, serene, self-confident and assertive. You will naturally start to take care of yourself, nurturing your body, mind and spirit. You will find that money, friends and good relationships will be attracted to you without you really trying very hard. You will not be satisfied by merely surviving, getting by and making a living. You will be shaping and designing your destiny. When you feel at peace and in harmony with yourself, you will automatically start to have better relationships with other people. As you progressively feel good about yourself, knowing your life is worth living and is meaningful, you will feel better about others. You will engage in meaningful relationships and activities that enhance the quality of your life and those of others. As you progress along your journey, you start to know what really matters to you. You have a clear vision of how you want to lead your life. You can refine your sense of purpose and you have a feeling of being in control of your life.
Genuine love casts out all fears and gives the courage to live abundantly. Reflection on the expression of love in your life is a key step in your personal growth. This is time well spent. Always strive to give of yourself and you become your best along the way. Once you have sought and achieved some degree of self-enhancement in your life, it will inspire and motivate you to continue on your path. You become proactive and you make things happen. You respond positively to all situations based on basic principles such as fairness, integrity, trust and honesty. You understand that you are responsible for your attitudes, feelings, thoughts and actions. You become more balanced, organized and focused. You realize that the respectful way you treat people is how you want them to treat you. Your loving thoughts and creative actions will lead you to your self-fulfillment.
Undertaking a personal growth journey is a long and challenging path. It requires time, patience, compassion and commitment. It puts a new and positive perspective in your present and future endeavour. Sure you will encounter opposition, disapproval, growing pains and obstacles along the way. Significant advances in your development as an individual come when you encounter pressure, fear and pain, and you face and surmount them. You understand that the obstacle has been put in your path for the purpose of your growth. In your quest of doing anything at all better than before and of improving yourself, don’t forget to be your best friend. In order to achieve some kind of fulfillment, you need to repeatedly remind yourself that you can control your thoughts, feelings and actions. Have the discipline to be in charge of yourself.
As your self-discovery journey progresses, you will attract positive people who wish you well, rather than put you down. You will gain more self-respect, self-esteem and self-confidence. You will start to visualize bigger goals and greater projects than you have ever attempted before. You will also realize that it’s not just achieving goals that matters, but more importantly, it’s the quality of life you experience along the way that is crucial to your growth and fulfillment. By applying some of the principles described in my book you will become more creative and proactive in your choices and decisions. Your purpose in life will inevitably become clearer to you. You will want to be of service to others and will receive the joy of giving. You will help people for the right reason and with the proper actions. By putting a little effort in the right direction at the right time, you will slowly but surely be able to alter your life and the lives of others for the better. You will begin to live a more abundant life filled with more and more gratitude, contentment, inner peace and happiness.
You owe it to yourself to explore your potential to become your best. The choice is yours to make. In case you decide to take the path of self-management and self-development, don’t miss the joy of being. Celebrate the joy of life, as a result you will be rewarded by becoming the best possible you.
Excerpt from my book: Become Your Best.
BEGIN WITH THE END RESULT IN MIND
Before you look forward to your end destination, you should consider your starting point. Right now, what is your current situation?. At what stage of life are you in. What are your current assets and strengths? What are your liabilities and weaknesses? Spend some time conducting an inventory of your strengths and weaknesses, assets and liabilities, and likes and dislikes. Determine what are your core values and priorities, and what are really important to you. Have a good handle on where you stand right now.
If you had your life to live over again what would you do differently. What do you think you could do about it? What is the biggest mistake you have made so far? What would you change? These are questions you can ask yourself when you want to reexamine yourself in terms of your life situation. Be fair and honest, as fair with yourself as you would be with somebody else. What is your purpose and goals in life? This is a fundamental question that most people ask themselves at one time or another. If you think I have the answer for you, you are wrong. You have the answer. We all have the answer within each one of us. For those of you who have not yet found your purpose in life, I can guide you in your search for it by beginning with the end result in mind.
To begin with the end result in mind means you need to have a clear and precise understanding of your destination. Find a quiet place where you can relax, be alone and uninterrupted when you are concentrating on the following exercise. You need a piece of paper to write your honest impressions, feelings and visualizations. Take your time to do this visualization exercise.
Exercise: Visualize yourself at your own funeral after a long, happy and fulfilled life. Assume that you have lived your life to your full potential. Your family, friends and colleagues have come to honour you, to express feelings of love and appreciation for your life. Think deeply and write down the epitaphs and eulogies you would like each of the following speakers to say about you and your life:
1. Members of your immediate family: your spouse, children and siblings.
2. Your best friend.
3. A member of your profession you admire.
4. A member of your church and/or community you respect.
Try to imagine what these people would say about you in your various roles. What would you be remembered for? How did you touch and influence their lives? What contributions did you make to your family, friends, profession and community? Write down what you would like to be said of you at the end of your life.
You can repeat this exercise until you are pretty sure that you have identified your inner sources of identity such as your beliefs, values and primary characteristics. This visualization exercise will help you identify the core beliefs and values that are most important to you, for example: happiness, love, good health, honesty, peace of mind, spirituality, gratitude, simplicity, beauty, respect, integrity, joy, trust, understanding, fairness, hard work, recognition, professionalism, service to others and caring relationship. Aside from making you face your own mortality, this exercise guides you in discovering your roles and goals in life. It is necessary to reassess your different roles in life as time goes on in order to take into account your personal sense of balance and significant emotional events. Regular self-examination forms part of life’s journey and plays a major role in awareness, insight and wisdom. In my opinion, this visualization exercise is one of the most insightful and impactful tools that you can use to guide you to live a meaningful, purposeful and fulfilled life.
Excerpt from my book: Become your best.http://www.kintue-fee.com