Can you imagine your ideal life? Do you know how to empower yourself to achieve it?
If you truly want to manifest the life you desire, first you need to seek and find your purpose in life. Identify your core values and beliefs. Then align your purpose in life with your values and beliefs.
Develop a mental positive attitude by thinking like a winner. Nurture your self-esteem by becoming your best friend. Incorporate good habits in your daily life. Motivate and inspire yourself daily.
Do an inventory of your strengths and weaknesses, intellectual and financial assets, and skills and talents. Identify your main goals and priorities. Focus your energy and strategies to achieving them. Develop an effective network. Seek guidance and support for your loved ones, coaches and mentors.
When you have a sincere and burning desire to follow your purpose in life, the Universe usually conspire to guide you to reach your highest callings. When you are ready, the teachers will appear. Think and grow a life of abundance. Nothing can really stop you, except yourself.
Are you living the life you dream of?
As I am retired from work, I have plenty of discretionary time to reflect about living and aging well. It is not just longevity. My first thought and advice is that living and aging well start early, not at retirement.
Life and aging is a continuum. You don’t need to wait for a better time before you start to change your lifestyle. Your lifestyle has a huge impact on the quality of your life. So you need to be proactive. Incorporate good habits in your daily activities as early as possible. Some good habits are as follows:
- develop positive mental attitude
- nurture your self-esteem
- exercise regularly
- nourish yourself with and health food and drinks
- have plenty of sleep and rest
- develop loving relationships
Of course, the above mentioned habits are not exhaustive by any means. For example, if you want to travel and see some interesting places around the world. You also need to take charge of your money and financial health if you want to have more options in life.
For me, living and aging well is simply the reward of a long and healthy life, filled with purpose, contentment and loving relationships.
“The important thing is not how many years is in your life but how much life is in your years.” Edward J. Stieglitz
Are you living and aging well? What does living and aging well mean to you?
An open and uncluttered mind is optimal for the practice of mindfulness. More and more people are becoming aware of the power of now. Being in the moment is essential to experience the joy and simplicity of feeling fully alive. Concentrate on whatever you are doing right now, one action and/or one task at a time. Whether you are sitting, walking, eating or working, be focused of what you are actually doing.
If you are talking to a person, pay attention and listen to what he or she is saying. If you are cooking a delicious dish, feel the textures of the ingredients under your hands and smell the odour of their fragrance. If you are driving a car, concentrate on the road in front of you while being aware everything around your periphery. If you are working on a project, focus your mind on the task at hand.
The practice of mindfulness is basically a moment by moment awareness. It is not easy to be mindful over an extended time. However its persistent practice can eventually become a beneficial habit for you and your awareness.
What are you doing to remain focused and mindful on your task at hand?
Taking charge of your life implies knowing your talents, abilities and needs as well as your limitations. Be sincere and honest with yourself by recognizing both your strengths and weaknesses. Accept the fact that you are not perfect and that there will be some failures in your life. Now is the time to choose how you want to lead the rest of your life. The first step is to believe that your life is worth the experience of living to its full potential. You have the choice to live purposely right now. Living in the present makes a lot of sense but it is not as easy as it seems. Many people insist on wasting time by mentally living in the past that cannot be changed or in the future which may never materialize as they wish it to. When you are stuck in this mode of thinking you need to alter your way of thinking immediately. Stop and ask yourself, what you could do to take better care of yourself right now. Giving careful consideration to this question usually leads to a change in your lifestyle, behaviour and thoughts. To live to your full potential, you must get into the habit of doing those things which are important to you today and every day, and doing them as efficiently as possible. Ask yourself regularly whether what you are doing at any moment is really important to you. Sometimes your present tasks at hand may not be pleasant but they are your responsibility and as such, you must perform them well. You will have taught yourself a valuable lesson in being responsible and proactive.
By choice through your actions or inaction, you are where you are at present. You may have low self-esteem and think that you are not capable of taking charge of yourself. You may be telling yourself that you are a failure, life isn’t fair and you doubt if reading this book is even worthwhile. The fact is that everyone has problems and adversities, and makes mistakes. Each of us is also a special and unique human being who is capable, worthy and lovable. It takes a lot of inner work to accept yourself as you are. There is really no other way but to start where you are and progress from there. Don’t allow poor judgement of yourself to limit you within preconceived boundaries. Take an inventory of every asset you possess. Begin with self-assessment. Is your greatest asset not yourself? You can shape your own destiny. Assess your present strengths, talents, abilities, skills and circumstances. Consult family members, friends, colleagues and professional experts to learn about and validate your real skills. Determine what your professional, technical, functional, transferable and personal skills are at this stage of your life. Utilize them to the best of your ability. Learn more about yourself, your values, beliefs, motivations, needs and interests.
Take responsibility your wellbeing and good health by caring for your body and mind. You may also want to work on your present weaknesses to build self-reliance and self-confidence. Be patient and don’t expect instant drastic changes. From your present perspective, examine your main purpose in life and give yourself a direction to follow. Look at the realities that are facing you today. Change direction if necessary so that you are in full alignment with your primary goal in life. Knowing where you are going will enable you to understand better where you are now so that you can take the appropriate steps in the direction you want to go next. You must have faith and confidence in yourself, recognizing that you can improve from where you are now.
Have you undertaken your crucial self-assessment recently? How are you taking charge of your life?
Take all the time necessary to think about your life purpose and develop a strategy and an action plan for it. Once you have a clear idea of your main priorities and goals in life. You need to get organized and develop a plan and strategy. Planning encompasses all activities that lead to the definition of objectives and strategies to achieve them. The more thoughts and details you can put on paper the better your chance of success. Think of your plan and strategy as a road map to follow in order to reach your destination. You need to remain flexible and adaptable because plan and strategy do alter according to changing conditions.
The important thing is to think your life strategy through very careful and put in on paper. Seek feedback and advice from more experienced people. Make appropriate changes where necessary at different stages of your life. Set realistic schedule for your action plan. Ensure you have a well thought out strategy and have a detailed effective action plan to achieve your goals. Go for it with all your resources, determination and energy. Good luck!
Your comments would be appreciated. Share with us your life purpose and strategy.
Do you have a clear vision of the life you would love to live? If you don’t, you need to spend the necessary time reflecting on it. If you do, visualize your dream life with positive emotions.
Share the vision of your dream life only with the key people who really matters to you and who will support you. Develop smart goals and strategies in alignment with your core values.
Develop an expansive network to find friends, coaches and mentors who can assist you effectively in achieving your goals and dream life.
If you are already living life you love, help others to live their dream lives.
How did you manifest your dream life?
Note: Just after drafting this article including the title, I read in Metro yesterday ( 14 January 2016) that there is a new book by Ayse Birsel, entitled : Design the life you love. Coincidence?
Failure will be inevitably part of your journey in life. Successful people don’t let fear of failure deter them.
If you are a teenager or a young adult and you ask out a girl or a guy on a date, you may get rejected, but you don’t let this rejection deter you from asking and falling in love again.
In your professional career, you will most probably be laid off for one reason or another, don’t let this setback deter you from applying for another position or starting your own business.
In your relationship with your partner in life, you will have arguments and disputes, don’t let these conflicts eliminate your respect, trust and love for the person you have chosen as your soul mate.
Personally, my worst fear was public speaking. After many years of hesitation, I finally joined Toastmaster International and conquer my fear of public speaking. Today I conduct seminars internationally on personal and professional management and leadership. In my professional career, I lost my job a couple of times, and I bounced back stronger. In my private life, I suffered two episodes of depression, they were was both very distressful and painful experiences. With much support and love, I recovered and made sure I help and serve others in similar situation whenever I can.
The lessons I have learned from facing fear and failure is that you need to accept your feelings of vulnerability in these situations. You also need to be resilient and try to stay positive. If you can’t, and sometimes you won’t be capable of staying positive, seek and accept help and assistance. You will eventually bounce back stronger and wiser as a human being with much more compassion and understanding of people and life. Your attitude is crucial to overcoming your fear and learning from your failure.
How did you overcome your fear and failure? Please share how you did it and your lessons learned.