There is a difference in taking charge of your life and trying to control your life. You are responsible for your actions, choices and decisions. However, you cannot control all aspects of your life. For example, you can’t control whether you will have an illness or not. You can’t control the global economy affecting your job and net asset. You can’t control a natural disaster upsetting your lifestyle. You can’t control the behaviors of other people who interact with you. Although you may influence them by your own behavior.
Most people want things to go their way. There is a feeling of control and satisfaction when things are going as we envisioned. We don’t like obstacles, disagreements and conflicts. We like things to work out exactly as we planned them to be. Unfortunately, life is not so predictable.
Control is in fact one of the main causes of breakdown in relationships. Generally speaking there are lots of control issues that degrade relationship: trying to change others, controlling the finance of a partnership, making all major decisions, giving instructions and orders, etc.
Having an awareness of the negative effects of control and expectation is therefore very important. The people who are successful and fulfilled in life tend to be flexible and adaptable to their circumstances. They can roll with the punches because of their positive mental attitude, healthy self-esteem and confidence in themselves.
You may not control of all aspects of your life, but you are in control of your attitude and mindset. Develop a positive mental attitude and nurture a healthy self-esteem. By doing so, you will be able to take charge of your life.
Have I really convinced you to forget about controlling your life or the lives of others? Any comments?