Good habits can definitely change your life for the better. The difference between successful people and you is not their education, money, talents, parents, country or luck, it is the number of good habits they have incorporated in their lives. You too can choose good habits over a stagnant life.
Here are four powerful habits that will strengthen your confidence and relationships, and transform your life:
- Take good care of yourself
- Nurture your relationships with your family and friends
- Set and achieve smart goals
- Be of service to others in need
- Take good care of yourself
Do you have good habits to take care of your health and well-being? Do you talk to yourself kindly instead of criticizing yourself constantly?
If you don’t, you need to learn to become your best friend. You do that by starting to prioritize self-care and self-love. There are healthy food and regular exercises to consider at every age. Count your blessings. Believe in yourself and think like a winner.
- Nurture your relationships with your family and friends
Life is a series of relationships. The rest are just the mechanics of life. Ensure that you prioritize quality time with your family and friends. Celebrate your family and loves ones’ successes together. Make sure to be there for them in their times of need too.
3. Set and achieve smart goals
Set and prioritize smart goals in all aspects of your life. Develop effective strategies and take decisive actions to achieve them. Monitor and evaluate your progress, and if necessary adjust your goals. Seek advice from effective coaches and experienced mentors.
- Be of service to others in need
Embrace life and celebrate your successes. When you are successful and progressing in your life, don’t forget to give a hand to others in need along the way. Remember part of your successes and happiness is actually being of service to your loved ones and others in need.
What are some of your good habits that are helping you to succeed in life?
Adapted from my book: Become your best
The uninhabitable earth by David Wallace-Wells
In his gripping travelogue, David Wallace-Wells brings into stark relief the climate troubles that wait – food shortages, cities in the coastlines drowning, refugee emergencies, and other crises that will reshape the globe. Unfortunately, the poorest countries will suffer more in our hot new world.
Since 1980, the planet has experienced a fiftyfold increase in the number of dangerous heat waves, a bigger increase is anticipated in the future. In 2010, 55,000 died in a Russian heat wave that killed 700 people in Moscow each day. Nowadays, air conditioners and fans already account for fully 10 percent of global electricity consumption.
The basic rule of thumb for staple cereal crops grown at optimal temperature is that for every degree of warming, yields decline by 10 percent. Which means that if the planet is five degrees warmer at the end of the century, when projections suggest we may have as many as 50 percent more people to feed, we may also have 50 percent less grain to give them. Drought may be an even bigger problem for food production than heat, with some of the world’s most arable land turning quickly to desert. In addition, wildfires are becoming a global pandemic.
By 2100, if we do not halt emissions, as much as 5 percent of the world’s population will be flooded every single year. With the gradual sea-level rise, the planet would lose about 444,000 square miles of land, where about 375 millions people live today – a quarter of them in China. Nearly two-thirds of the world major cities are on the coast and they may be flooded or at least be adversely affected by the sea-level rise due to the warming of the planet. Melting the Antarctic and Greenland ice sheet would, over centuries, raise sea levels six meters, eventually drowning Miami and Manhattan and London and Shanghai and Bangkok and Mumbai and Jakarta.
Global warming is a result of actions made mostly by human beings in the past. There is still time to mitigate the catastrophic effects of global warming, extreme weather, droughts and wildfires but time is running out fast.
Can you really design and build a life that you love? Yes you can if you have the necessary desire, tools and strategies, as well as the persistence and grit to make it happens. These are the essential areas and goals you should focus on:
- Values and mindset
- Priorities, passion and purpose
Values and mindset
The foundation of a successful life is solidly based on a positive mental attitude (PMA) and a healthy self-esteem. Without these attributes, there is no chance of living your dream life. In addition, your life needs to be based on a set of humane values. One of the best ways to achieve all of that is to learn to be your best friend, and thus give yourself the best advice all your life.
Priorities, passion and purpose
No doubt your first priority is to develop and nurture your PMA and self-esteem on a daily basis. Hopefully, developing your relationships with your family and friends will be among your top priorities. Discover and understand what you are passionate about, and determine your purpose in life through deep introspection.
Work on all aspects of your health and well-being: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Financial and relational health are also important but are discussed separately. Practise daily activities and exercises that will consciously maintain and enhance your health and well-being, like exercising, eating healthy food, relaxation and sleep, prayer and meditation, etc.
Think like an entrepreneur whether you are working for others or for yourself. Develop effective strategies to strive for your financial independence and freedom as early as possible, like investing in real estate and the stock markets. Start your wise investments early, time and compound interests will be huge advantages for you. With financial freedom, you will have no more financial issues and stress, and a lot more options for yourself and your family.
Loving relationships matter. Life is really a series of relationships. The rest is just the mechanics of life. Without loving relationships, there is no meaning to life. So spend much of your precious time with your family and friends and create memorable occasions, reunions and celebrations. Financial wealth will give you more discretionary time with your loved ones with much more opportunities.
By putting all the above together and with continuous learning, we can achieve your lifetime success in alignment with your humane values and beliefs. Of course, you will have to make many choices and decisions. For sure you will have challenges and make mistakes along your journey to success. Don’t worry about them, learn from them and forge ahead. Hopefully, when you are living your dream life, you don’t forget to pull along your family, friends and others along the way. Enjoy it, you deserve it!
The above ideas and concepts are taken from my book: Become your best. For more detailed principles and strategies, consult my book: Become your best.
An idea, message, behaviour or product can spread rapidly just like viruses do. The name given to that one dramatic moment in an epidemic when everything can change all at once is the Tipping Point. It is the moment of critical mass, the threshold, or the boiling point.
However there are many ways to tip an epidemic. The author call the three agents of change: the Law of the Few, the Stickiness Factor and The Power of Context. The Law of the Few means that a tiny percentage of people do the majority of the work. The Stickiness Factor says that there are specific ways of making a contagious message memorable and impactful. The sensitive to their environment than they may seem.
Gladwell’s book affirms that human beings are profoundly social beings, no matter how much technology are introduced into our lives. In some rare instance an exchange can ignite a word-of-mouth epidemic. The success of any kind of social epidemic is heavily dependent on the involvement people with special social gifts and persuasive force. People are actually going to have to be persuaded to do something via social media or other information medium.
At times, relatively minor changes in our external environment can have a dramatic effect on how we behave and who we are, infecting the whole community ethos. In some instances, peer pressure can be much more powerful than the management directives. You all know of a colleague with great persuasive power of his or her personality who can influence your office atmosphere much more than your boss.
Starting epidemics requires concentrating resources on a few key areas. There are times when we need a convenient shortcut, a way to make a lot out of a little. For example, by reaching those few special people who hold so much social power, we can shape the course of social epidemics. The theory of Tipping Points requires that we reframe the way we think about the world. People can radically transform their behavior or beliefs in the face of the right kind of impetus.
If you want to be successful in life, you need to change the habits and beliefs that are holding you back, that is change your mind state. When your mindset is on the right track, you are much more likely to be successful and fulfilled in life.
You need to understand that human brain is set by default on negativity, scarcity, fear and anxiety. Your brain tends to perpetuate your limiting beliefs, negative thoughts and old traumas. However the good news is that you are not stuck with the brain and mindset you have. You can change your brain by training it to think differently, hence change your mindset as a result.
You need to be vigilantly mindful and protect your brain from negativity and limiting beliefs. Use your brain to your advantage by focusing it on what really matters to you and by targeting directly what you want. Demand absolute clarity fin your thinking and decisions. Visualize the outcomes and results with as much emotion as you can. Recognize and release your limiting beliefs and unproductive habits. Know your SWOT, that is your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. Manage your fears and doubts. Be flexible, resourceful and committed to change your brain and mindset.
Stay very vigilant and enhance your mindset and attitude continuously. Don’t let the brain gets in a rut and revert to limiting beliefs and negative patterns. Now go ahead and focus your brain on how you can make your life more successful, meaningful and fulfilling. Your mindset and outlook will be much more positive. As you begin to believe in yourself and think like a winner, there will be more abundance, gratitude and fulfilment in your life.
In her book, Amanda Lang shows how curiosity and the ability to ask the right questions fuels innovation, and drive change in business as well as in our personal lives.
She argues that curiosity requires habits of thought that most of us don’t cultivate. For example, curiosity requires the courage to risk of failing and being wrong. If you are not prepared to be wrong, you will never come up with anything original.
There are good practical reasons to encourage curiosity. It drives innovation, which in turn powers productivity. To progress and innovate, we need to challenge ourselves and each other. This process keeps your mind engaged and pushes you to novel way of acting and thinking.
The most successful and innovative businesses in the world promote a culture of diversity and inquiry throughout the organization. This promotion of the culture of diversity and inquiry does not come as a result of crisis, but rather as their normal business strategy. They are good at asking why reinvent the wheel if they can borrow and adapt one from another field. In other words, they take what already exists and push the boundaries to see how much better they can make it. They often look for answers in unlikely places. They explicitly reframe mistakes as necessary steps in the creative process.
At heart, innovation is about approaching the world differently. It’s about asking “Why?” and “Why not?”. Asking these questions makes life richer, more interesting and more fulfilling.
Communication skills are essential if you want to succeed in your family life, in your work and in your social interactions. We all spend the large majority of our waking time communicating or interacting with other people. You need to communicate in order to share ideas, experiences and feelings, to solve problems and to form relationships. You do it by listening, speaking, reading and writing. Research has shown that in the work environment people spend on average 45% of their communication time listening, 30% talking, 16% reading and 9% writing. Practicing effective communication can help you shape your world as you would like it to be. Communication is basically an interaction between you and one or more individuals, who most likely have different needs, goals, outlooks and values. It is a two-way transfer of information and meaning. You want your communication to be effective. A good interaction achieves a satisfactory completion of the transaction and enhances the relationship between both parties.
A good communicator sends and receives messages in the context of an open, supportive and empathic relationship. There are strategies for good communication that you should be aware of and practice on a regular basis. The strategies discussed below are mainly for oral communication and some of them are obviously not applicable if the method of communication is different. Some of the important strategies in communication are:
- Prepare the message with a clear-cut objective. Know what you want to say or write.
- Present yourself and your message in the best light. Be honest, clear, concise and coherent in your communication.
- Gain and maintain the attention of the receivers. Learn how to match the other party’s language.
- Respect the needs and interests of others. Identify the benefits to the listeners.
- Use simple language and emphasize the main points. Know what the audience likes and is interested in.
- Avoid barriers to communications. Create a good atmosphere in which communication can take place.
- Listen attentively and clarify misunderstandings. Be an active and empathic listener.
- Close the conversation effectively. Follow up and maintain relationship.
You need to know exactly what you want to communicate and what you wish to achieve. Clarify for yourself the purpose, intent and content of what you wish to say. Keep your objective in mind and come to the point as quickly as possible. A well prepared and focused communication has a better chance of being understood. Present yourself as a person with empathy and understanding every time you speak. Nonverbal messages make big impressions. A smile, a firm hand shake, open posture and eye contact convey confidence and respect. Try to match the other party’s language, verbal and nonverbal. Make sure that you have the attention of your audience before you begin to talk. You may need to spend time preparing the receiving party. Identify what benefit they might gain as a result. Use simple language; be clear, brief and specific. Try to be concise, while giving an appropriate amount of information. Avoid unnecessary detail and emphasize the main points and benefits. Do not criticize, put down, order or threaten the other party. Show your sense of humor whenever appropriate. Practice empathic listening and clarify what you have not understood. You have to determine when and how to end the communication appropriately. If the receiving party is not receptive and wants to end the communication, do not disapprove of his or her need for withdrawing. You may summarize what has been achieved and suggest ways forward or a follow up. In many cases, you need to follow up to get something done and maintain the relationship.
Excerpt from my book: Become your best